Ten college students frosty
Through the continuous expansion of the enrollment scale of colleges and universities and the study of undergraduates, the pressure on employment has increased, and the psychological problems of college students have also shown an upward trend year by year.
Recently, Harbin Normal University Psychological Counseling Center’s research data on interpersonal trust of some college students shows that there are 11.
13% of college students feel distressed by lack of trust in others.
Experts believe that students’ inadequate interpersonal communication is likely to cause them to worry, collide, and form psychological sub-health.
In this sample survey of research data, only 17.
44% of college students have a high degree of trust in the behavior of others, other people’s commitments or (verbal or written) statements, and conduct interpersonal communication with an open mind.
93% of college students only have a general level of trust, which is not enough to coordinate their relationship with others.
Interpersonal trust is of course 11.
13%, they can’t find a suitable role for themselves in the group, can’t get along with classmates and teachers, and work together harmoniously.
In response to the fact that some college students have a low level of trust in interpersonal communication, the reporter interviewed several college students studying in Kazakhstan.
Li Xin, a senior student at a university in Harbin, said that he was busy looking for a job and had just contacted the society. He felt that the society was so complicated as a big black hole that he could not see its true colors.
The authenticity of information in society needs to be identified, and there is competition for employment among classmates, which makes him always be careful when doing things.
Li Xin feels that most people are arrogant and unbelievable.
Therefore, when dealing with people now, he often has a lot of doubts, lest he lose good job opportunities and beware of being deceived.
Xiao Wei, who was just in his first year of college this year, said that before going to college, parents warned themselves not to trust strangers, let alone tell the truth to their classmates.
Parents think that school is also equivalent to a small society. Everyone has their own secrets. They are afraid that Xiao Wei, who is innocent and simple, will be used by others because of her simplicity.
Therefore, since going to college, she has been careful to follow her parents’ instructions and rarely talk to her classmates.
Why are some college students’ trust in interpersonal communication so low?
The reporter learned in the interview that the majority of students in colleges and universities are from single-child families. Because these students are the only seedlings in their families, sometimes they have some maverick habits in their daily study and life, and some studentsThe performance is more concerned about their own inner world, not good at interacting with others, especially lacking the ability to interact with others in a team.
In addition, there is a class of students who are inherently timid and cautious, so they often have serious doubts and distrust each other when they are living.
In addition, some students have a lack of trust and suspicious personality due to their failed interaction experience.
For example, a female student once told her friend about her secret crush on others. As a result, the friend not only did not help her to keep the secret, but also advertised it to other classmates as a fun talk, which made her deep in her heart.Deeply hurt.
Since then she no longer trusts anyone, and rarely opens her heart to others.
In response to this phenomenon, Ms. Cai Yingchun from the Psychological Counseling Center of Harbin Normal University believes that in daily study, life, and work, people must take precautions against some people with bad intentions. Then, after all, they are a minority and cannot be rejected by even friends.Thousands of miles.
Excessive suspicion, suspicion, distrust, making people difficult to make friends, unable to form corresponding interpersonal relationships, work in this situation, study, personal psychological pressure will be great.
Teacher Cai said that good interpersonal relationships are of great significance to university students’ study, life and personal development, and interpersonal trust is an important condition for good interpersonal relationships and the basis of interpersonal communication.
Individuals with high interpersonal trust are more likely to show trust behaviors when interacting with others, and are more likely to cooperate with others, thus forming a good interpersonal relationship, and being able to maintain a more healthy psychological state; on the other hand, if a person lacks a minimum of trust,Everything is in doubt, and it will inevitably be too cautious to do things. In this way, it will be easy for you to fall into anxiety and form mental subhealth.
Moreover, the criminal students’ own physical health can cause harm and even lead to serious mental illness.
The university stage is an important stage for the development of individual interpersonal trust. The interpersonal trust level of college students changes the spirit of cooperation, coexistence and the establishment of harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Teacher Cai suggested that to improve the interpersonal trust level of college students, especially those with low interpersonal trust, we must first understand more about others and try to think and think from the perspective of others when we are living.
At the same time, more communication and exchanges should be made with people. Don’t just judge people and things based on personal subjective or previous interaction experience.
If you still feel overly fearful and trusting in dealing with people, you can also ask a counsellor for help.
Mr. Cai said that at present, Harbin Normal University has carried out two-month interpersonal trust measurement and training on freshmen for freshmen through film classes, group training, mental health education classes and online learning.The level of trust has improved significantly.